You don’t need a coach… do you?

Jun 20, 2018Blog

A common misconception about coaching is that we don’t necessarily need it.  People see it as a luxury.  Only those with a lot of money hire coaches.  But you don’t need a coach.  You’re not even sure you could afford one.  And besides, you’ve made it this far without a coach, right?

Don’t dig your heels in just yet, because I’m getting ready to tell you something that you probably didn’t know.  Of every single success story in the entire world, there has never, ever, ever, ever been a person who was successful without coaching.

To say every successful person had a coach is a pretty bold statement, right? But I’m serious about this.  It is a 100% guarantee.  You cannot be successful without coaching.  And here’s how I know:

Everyone has a coach.

Now before you think to yourself this ins’t true, allow me to explain.

The primary job of a professional coach is to ask questions.  The questions are designed to help a person think through a different perspective; to change the lens they see through, so to speak.  And in order to do that, your mind needs to detach momentarily from your current perspective.  So as a coach, it is my job to allow you to see things from more than one perspective.  It is to get rid of all the barriers that keep you from making good decisions.  In a nutshell, coaching is all about influence.  Specifically, gaining the right type of influence.

Here is the crazy thing about influence:  YOU CANNOT ESCAPE IT.  Influence is all around us.  We are influenced by our friends, family, movies, television, books, social media, the “news”, or anything else you can think of.  Anything and everything that we surround ourselves with during any given day has some degree of influence over our lives, whether we want to admit it or not.  And since influence is essentially the same as coaching, then whether you like it or not, you are being coached.

That’s how I know that all successful people have been coached.  It’s not because they’ve all hired a coach to help them succeed.  It is because everyone is being coached.  Unless someone sits in a dark room with no contact with anyone or anything else anywhere, they are being coached.

So now the question remains:  Who or what is coaching you?

The answer to this question is important, but it is not near as important as what you are going to do about it next.  You see, a major key to success in any goal you want to achieve is to be INTENTIONAL about your actions.  You want what you do to be part of the plan to get you to where you want to be.  It is no different with coaching.  Since we are all being coached anyway, then we must be mindful of who and what we allow to coach us on a regular basis.

For this reason, there is one question I like to ask myself when I begin to pursue my goals:  What gives me the best chance at success moving forward?

In regards to coaching, the answer is simple: You need to be mindful of who and what you are allowing to influence you.  You don’t have to hire a coach.  But if you have the means, I would highly recommend it.  And if not, just start to pay attention to what you allow to influence you. Associate with the right people.  Read the right types of books.  And stop spending so much time on Facebook.  I can’t guarantee this will make you successful.  Nothing can do that.  But it will make it MUCH more likely to happen.  You will always have a better chance for success when you are intentional about your actions as they relate to your goals.

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